Busy work, the length of time spent wading congestion on the streets, and the same routine every day, often make us hit by boredom. Up in the house, we immediately got stuck in the same activity: prepare dinner for the family, accompany children to learn, and take them to bed. Once in the bedroom itself, we've run out of steam. Sex is only a liability, instead willing to experiment with different styles and end the night with a pillow talk sessions.
When you have a situation like this, you are not alone. In fact chances are, you are far more fortunate. In fact, 10-20 percent of romance in America today is no longer to have sex, according to Robert Epstein, PhD, psychologist and founder of the Cambridge Center for Behavioral Studies in Beverly, Mass.. The amount is equal to 40 million people. This fact is quite surprising, considering that people are too embarrassed to admit that they do not experience sexual satisfaction or frequency of a particular sex.
A survey found that 30 percent of male respondents in their 40s and 34 percent in their 50's (and engage in) did not have sex the previous year. In women ages 40's and 50's, about 21 percent reported not having sex with their partner in the previous year.
The couple will say do not have sex if they just have sex less than once a month, or less than 10 times a year, said Dr. Epstein. It does not mean the couple did not feel the love, or unhappy with the relationship, as 5-7 percent of the couple was experiencing perfect happiness in a relationship without sex. However, if you and your partner are not satisfied with the sex?
If sex is no longer a part of the paired relationship, there are some things that could be the cause. Maybe the couple does have a low sex drive, and choose to not have sex very often. Alternatively, sexual satisfaction couples interrupted by pregnancy and a new baby, health problems, or aging.
There is no gold standard regarding the ideal frequency of sex, or how to measure a person's level of sexual satisfaction. According to Epstein, the key is to understand what is good and bad. Well, it means everyone's sexual needs met. Meanwhile, when bad, at least one party's sexual needs are not met.
However, if both parties libido is low, and their needs are adequately met, the couple can have a happy marriage without sex though, said Epstein. Similarly, if the couple can understand that the health condition makes sex so reduced, then both sides can still be happy. After all, the couple is able to provide other forms of intimacy such as hugging, holding hands, massaging, touching, and so forth.
Kissing can also create greater intimacy than sex, so think Jill Blakeway, director of clinical YinOva Center in New York City, and author of the book Sex Again: Recharging Your Libido.
"Kissing is one of the first ways to connect sexually. Sessions kiss is important, because it lowers levels of the stress hormone, cortisol, and increase oxytocin, the hormone for bonding. Was why, kissing makes people more relaxed and able to establish a connection. Said Chinese Medicine mouth and tongue have a connection with the heart. Kissing also binds people to each other, "he explained.
That would be a problem is if there is an imbalance between the couple. For example, one party has a low sexual desire, while others high sex drive. Although they started a relationship with the same sex drive, but when the need for sexual gratification of either party to change, one of the parties was not happy with the change.
Epstein admits, a lot of couples without sex that are unhappy. Data were obtained from 3,000 people in the United States and Canada, 4.8 percent of men admit they themselves have a low sex drive. In women, more than twice as much (10.8 percent) admit their lack of sexual desire.
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